Be the Lead Singer in Your Life: Come Out of the Background


I am a person who enjoys cruises. I appreciate the opportunity to visit different locations, rest by the peacefulness of the water, and delight in the overall entertainment. One night, while me and a few new friends were listening to the band and watching people celebrate, I made the comment of how I would like to get up on stage and sing with the band.



I reacted with, “Oh no, I just want to be one of the background singers.”


My friend responded to me, “You would probably sound good singing on the microphone.” I reacted with, “Oh no, I just want to be one of the background singers.” She then looked at me with a questioning face and stated, “You have so much in you that I do not understand why you would want to hide in the background.”


Certainly, I found her response to be unexpected, but I also realized how it spoke to my heart. In other words, it was more than just about singing with a cruise ship band. I found it to be relevant for my overall life. It was interesting how her expectation of me was to be in front. Yet, my expectation of me was to be in the back.



At that moment, I decided that it was time for me to come out from hiding.


Later that same night, I reflected on how often I choose to be in the background. I carry so much anxiety and self-questioning, that I do not want to be out in the front. I often support and motivate other people, provide words of encouragement, and get joy from seeing them lifted. All the while, I simply remain in the background. At that moment, I decided that it was time for me to come out from hiding. To figure out what was really keeping me in the background. To explore my fears and become un-tangled from the issues that were weighing me down.



Tune in to this video interview with Rochelle Porter, Founder of Rochelle Porter Design, to learn more about how she came into alignment with her passion and combined it with social responsibility.




  1. Have you been the background singer in your own life?

  2. What has kept you from being the lead singer [in charge] of your life?

  3. Are you living in alignment with your beliefs, values, intentions?

  4. If you could take one step today to come out of the background, what would it be?




Story above quoted from, Becoming Un-Tangled: Eight Simple Strategies for Cleaning Up Your Life, Mind, and Habits.

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